What makes a relationship so easy? So you think being in a relationship is easy eh? Well, with the story lines of fairy tale stories and also with Japanese mangas and animes spoiling our thoughts all on relationships. Sad to say, all the happy endings that one see in comics, fairy tales doesn’t apply at all, and being in a relationship is not all about being lovey dovey and how nice to meet with each another.
Well, if you’re reading this and still in the studying stage, you might not agree with me, as you love company and the feeling of having someone alongside you. But but but… times change, and suddenly one day you’re out there working your ass off, trying to gain that extra moolah (money) for the benefit of your usefulness. Then in the relationship, not everything is as easy as it seems. This time being in a relationship is not about being lovey dovey and go out to super class dinners, etc. One have to be concerned about the other party as to whether this is the person who one can rely to be the lifetime partner.
There are people who contradict with me, saying, well time might change a person, but if that person has always been saying that ever since they are single and in the same relationship, I wonder if it will ever work. Take for example, how many of you have ever fulfilled some of the New Year resolutions, always wanted to learn something or achieve something which is possible but then took the long long time and some don’t even do anything about it.
Now why is relationship tough?
Now let me break down in simple simple sentences.
It is tough because you care for the relationship to grow and not just let bygones be bygones. You want the relationship to succeed, and in order to achieve that, both must have a goal for that relationship.
It is tough because taking into account your financial and status, everything in this world come at a price. You can’t expect next time to be a full time house wife(female) if the financial security isn’t enough. Don’t just wished for it, think about it instead.
It is tough because when in a relationship, people tend to overlook the little things that might affect them due to all the love they receive that when they realised it too late, love on it’s own is not going to help in sustaining the physical and material needs of a successful relationship.
Guessed time changes everything. Now we’re living in a city, a city, a metropolitan to some, of course, the cost also will increase. So it’s the truth and cruel world out there. So now you know, what can you do then. I’ve taken my step to ensure that I am well equipped in the mean time, what about you 🙂
true. not only just being lovey dovey is enough. there are a lot more aspects in life that need to be considered tho people always think that i’m too maretialistic sometimes but whatever I’m doing now is for my children sake. I want to give my kids what my parents gave me.
Hi Daniel,
Was surprised to see your blog after some searching on Nuffnang…
Anyway, great postup…really agree wif wat u have said..
no doubt a relationship can be tricky sometimes, but when we look at the better things in the relationship, there are some things are worth sacrificing for.
first point, we have to manage the expectations lor, and trying to go naturally. It’s the journey being together most and not rushing to the destination. Appreciate the journey, and not too much thinking about the journey. Enjoy it.
second point, sometimes romantic moment can be done economically. And if you want yr wife to be working, that’s fine rite? It helps the relationship financially too and dont see it a problem
third point, dont quite get u, kekeke
but if love is so materialistic, then it’s probably not love at all.
well I still on studying stage but I do agree relationship is tough… once you have your relationship, financial status is very important as you’ll spend more on your partner
yeah,that is true..love only is not enough..need to be prepared for the unexpected..
True,
Very true,
I still go for self enhancement before starting a relationship and in the mean time build up a relationship first.
True, true, true
Dude this is deep. Something for everyone to think about. 🙂
And hey, you generalizing those who still in seeking their education stage as people who are in need of companionship and stuff like that is wrong. =p there are still some who focus on their studies 100% too ya know. But, one thing I must agree, getting involved in a relationship is kind of money wasting. Not forgetting time too.
Ooo and like everyone else, i agree that a relationship based solely on love for each other is not enough. Must think of other factors tooo.
Oh well, just my lil 2 cents. ignore me. 😀
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you need help. that’s it. something wrong with you lately. msn me la. this time i’ll be the listener, you do the talking
Evrything is tough in life… it’s how you deal with it that matters. You can do it… just give more ‘umph!’
littlepolaris,
You’ve brought up well. Good to know that 🙂
Terrance,
Oh my, it’s you there. O_o so long no see!
pikey,
love should not be materialistic, but at least be realistic. Feelings only wouldn’t work for the future of the coming family.
vickie,
Many people changed their thoughts after they started working. 🙂
mac,
More so, actually this article presents the real life experiences
SkyWalker,
Yup.. good on you bro. Just don’t be too engrossed though!
SWei,
The other factors exist as time changes. So it’s logical in a way 🙂
Angeline,
=.=” this article is not about me -.-
Ichitaka,
Another one. It’s not me
aren’t love is all about caring and trusting each other?
trusting is very essential in a relationship..without it, a relationship wouldn’t last..