Yes, it’s me again and my controversial post about relationships. Well, you know that I like to talk about this stuffs and giving my opinions on the term relationship, but I really don’t know why some people like to instead say i was the one involved.

You know, sometimes being in love is not really hard, the problem comes when you try to be romantic. Yes, many couples have different meanings of being romantic and girls especially *psstt.. don’t kill me just yet, read on…* This is because most girls read novels and most of them are love novels. It’s evident even when I was studying in high school, some of them bring these novels to school and read them. To me, I think it’s their fantasy trying to be swept off their feet.

I am now trying to tell you being romantic doesn’t need to be practiced. It should come natural. Well, but because not everyone is a natural, I can give you some pointers that I got from eHarmony, which is an online dating site or from any other sites, but of course some of you would rather me telling you more from my personal point of view. Just a point I should point out, basically for guys, don’t get pressured at seeing what other people can do. Just be yourself and most importantly be a gentleman. DON’T go rehearsing Shakespeare poems to present when you can’t and do the extreme if you can’t afford it. It’ll be romantic to do it at least once, but by then you’ll be thinking of what other romantic stuffs to do, instead of being your natural self. If you don’t believe me, you just have to see for yourself.

If you’re just trying to be romantic to be in a relationship, you’re doing it all for the wrong purpose. This is what I call romance should not be taken lightly. Maybe due to my analysis, girls would love surprises from their boyfriends out of the blue, but constantly doing it, bores them. Well, not to say you should stop but it’s good to let them treasure the romantic feel for a longer time before the guy give them another romantic feel. Sometimes little stuffs, like buying flowers, that’s all it takes. Trust me, girls love flowers, even a single stalk sometimes can mean so much. *hint hint*

Well, basically this is just my personal opinion, well, you can give me more opinions and girls you can have your definition of romantic, maybe let the guys pick up a point or two. Well, we learn by doing this, so what say you all?

ps : By the way, upcoming post!! Sneak Preview!!

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The election has ended. It was a tired night the night before, hardly getting enough sleep waiting for the results. These are the aftermath after the elections which I surprisingly mentioned about. Surprised, this year was an interesting one compared to the other previous elections. My friends overseas tend to talk about Malaysia’s election saying it’s one of the most uninteresting election to follow. But looks like these year has really shocked the whole nation and the world. With Barisan Nasional(BN) losing it’s 2/3 majority, it’s like a whole new thing.

I predicted that at least Penang and Kelantan would be gone. Surprisingly, BN maintained a foothold onto Terengganu which they won in a majority. What really happened in this part?

WHAT HAPPENED?

First, who would have expected that Penang and Kelantan was taken by both DAP/PKR and PAS respectively with a major landslide victory, or to some of them, like a tsunami over Barisan Nasional. I meant, previous term, Kelantan was nearly won by BN and Penang was never under threat the previous term.

Secondly, big guns are missing from the seats these time around. With faces like Samy Vellu, Dr Koh Tsu Khoon, Shahrizat all missing and losing their respective seats. The term before this has seen the opposition faced a similar defeat with Hadi Awang losing his and the term before that with both Lim Kit Siang and Karpal Singh losing theirs. Looks like BN now instead are on the losing end.

Thirdly, Barisan Nasional was so sure the votes are going to come in and they are even opportunistic that they would try to get Kelantan into the Barisan Nasional territory only to see it all go down to drain. The once impregnable fortress of Barisan Nasional in Johore has now been breached with one parliament seat going to the opposition. To think that the opposition has at least one parliamentary seat in all the states except in Perlis (3 Parliament Seats only in Perlis).

Finally, a takeover of at least 5 states altogether. The surprise wasn’t Penang or Kelantan with predictions that this year these states would go to them, but it was the loss of Perak and Kedah that has got the BN rolling their eyes. The worst setback was the one involving the loss of Selangor into the hands of the opposition. A major setback considering Selangor has been one of BN’s stronghold. With the losses of these states, BN was denied a 2/3 majority.

THE CAUSES

Analysis on this scenario, I will first and foremost make my reader understand that this analysis is based on word of mouth, the internet and also the observation of a Malaysian like myself. Well, the Internet is there to speak our minds, so this is where I come in too.

Previously, BN portrays a new leadership under Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi a.k.a. Pak Lah during it’s previous term. During that time, BN deserved a new high majority victory. With a new ruling and a new horse in power, many people voted for BN then. The case isn’t the same now though. The corruption is one of the main reasons. Ministers being caught for buildings, Chief Judge case and also the voices of certain parties in the parliament has all sparked some criticism from the public.

To make the matter worse, the so called minister that have been deemed guilty for not obtaining a permit has been given a lease by not getting a penalty. Now picture this, what would the voters say, fair government or just plain close one eye. The emergence of Hindraf has also brought the fall of the party. With Samy Vellu, Kayveas and his secretary both failing to win their seats, my main observation would be the involvement and handling of the Hindraf issue.

Seeing judgement as not fair in the eyes of the public, it is to no wonder that the public has created an outcry that they should vote for a change of leadership. The opposition parties though have used this to their greatest advantage garnering the votes of the voters.

I believe that the voters are angry and fed up of all the treatment the government are giving to these certain individuals. Maybe it’s time to wake up. My guess is in these times, BN would be thinking of what ever went wrong. Why did the votes shifted wind this time?

WHAT COMES NEXT?

So what comes next? With new leadership comes new responsibilities for the leaders of the acquired 5 states. The people has shown their faith in them, let’s hope they do better than what they always say they would do. In the coming 4 to 5 years, the public is the eye of these people. I believe too that BN wouldn’t sit down and look at it anymore, and enjoying their previous majority wins like ever, it’s really going to be a think tank battle.

Altogether is bound to be something new for Malaysian history. Let’s wait and observe, the people of Malaysia.
Remember it’s not the government that makes the people, it’s the people that makes the government.

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What makes a relationship so easy? So you think being in a relationship is easy eh? Well, with the story lines of fairy tale stories and also with Japanese mangas and animes spoiling our thoughts all on relationships. Sad to say, all the happy endings that one see in comics, fairy tales doesn’t apply at all, and being in a relationship is not all about being lovey dovey and how nice to meet with each another.

Well, if you’re reading this and still in the studying stage, you might not agree with me, as you love company and the feeling of having someone alongside you. But but but… times change, and suddenly one day you’re out there working your ass off, trying to gain that extra moolah (money) for the benefit of your usefulness. Then in the relationship, not everything is as easy as it seems. This time being in a relationship is not about being lovey dovey and go out to super class dinners, etc. One have to be concerned about the other party as to whether this is the person who one can rely to be the lifetime partner.

There are people who contradict with me, saying, well time might change a person, but if that person has always been saying that ever since they are single and in the same relationship, I wonder if it will ever work. Take for example, how many of you have ever fulfilled some of the New Year resolutions, always wanted to learn something or achieve something which is possible but then took the long long time and some don’t even do anything about it.

Now why is relationship tough?
Now let me break down in simple simple sentences.

It is tough because you care for the relationship to grow and not just let bygones be bygones. You want the relationship to succeed, and in order to achieve that, both must have a goal for that relationship.

It is tough because taking into account your financial and status, everything in this world come at a price. You can’t expect next time to be a full time house wife(female) if the financial security isn’t enough. Don’t just wished for it, think about it instead.

It is tough because when in a relationship, people tend to overlook the little things that might affect them due to all the love they receive that when they realised it too late, love on it’s own is not going to help in sustaining the physical and material needs of a successful relationship.

Guessed time changes everything. Now we’re living in a city, a city, a metropolitan to some, of course, the cost also will increase. So it’s the truth and cruel world out there. So now you know, what can you do then. I’ve taken my step to ensure that I am well equipped in the mean time, what about you

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You know, I have a hefty scenario here, which I would think might interest a few people here. Well, it’s time for me to talk about relationships again. haaa… you didn’t know it? I love to blog about this topic and try to get public’s thought about it. Besides it’s fun to learn and share with each another.

Well, I am sure some of you have this predicament during those years, that either you’ve made a slow decision or one waited too long.. Still don’t get it, basically one regrets and looks back at the time if only I had made the move, then I wouldn’t have to sit and think back all the time one wasted during those years. This is one I heard from someone during my college years. This is what she said when I finally messaged her through ICQ (yeah.. I live in the ICQ age).

“How come now only you’ve contacted me? If only you were that bold last time!!”

Okay.. I was sweating. Imagine this, I actually did fall for her during high school years, but those days.. I was never meant to pursue in a relationship. In a way, this experience has given me a little bit impression of how important it is to be bold in one’s decision. Sadly, sometimes it doesn’t always work and listening to what one had learn previously.

Since I am so nice this time, how about I give you a scenario. Debate if you like, but I would like to hear your opinions.

A guy (let’s call him Jim) was someone who had a fun single life. Though one day, he met someone who he fell for which was a girl , (call her Eve). Both of them met in a group gathering, (which usually how it all started) and slowly Jim developed feelings for Eve. But you see, Jim had trouble approaching until one fine day he decided enough is enough.. he will approach her and tell Eve how he felt. (“happy right??”)

The story doesn’t end here though. Just when he thought the day was right, Jim had it all planned out to go meet Eve the following week, he was shocked to hear someone came ahead of him a few days earlier and that person is together with Eve. Okay… Jim was suddenly feeling all awkward and all plans failed.

So now, the question to you guys/gals. What should Jim do???

Fuhhhhh… finally wrote something longer. Oh yeah… if you wanted it to be more dramatic and just love to put me in the scenario, then just substitute Jim with me and Eve with Jolin HAHAAHHAA!!! Fake OK!!

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You will feel down, when you think the world around you is crumbling. You felt that whatever you do, there’s always something which makes it like you did a big mistake. You also ponder as to why am I here? Why is it that I can’t find peace. Where am I? Do I exist merely to live and then die.

Most of us has all these thoughts or somehow someway thought of it before. Well, it’s perfectly natural. I sometimes wonder, why all the fuss to work my ass off to succeed in something and go under remote superbly crazy stress under your employer when one can take life easy. Yes, here’s another thought…. taking life easy when you’re single is alright, but if you’re married, you got an aim, which is to strive to ensure happiness for the future ones (child) living style. In a way, people live because they need an aim, people work because they also have an aim.

My aim now is to make myself look good physically. Although my mum too keeps calling me to find ‘someone’, parents will always be parents. Well, that’s the reason for being the eldest. Dang…. saying I am not young anymore.. *cham*

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