Right about now, your life looks bleak upon you. You felt that there are way too many oppositions, way too many problems to solve. Why do we live? Why are there so many problems, I cannot bear with it. Why are there so many challenges in life? Why can’t life be simple?

Many a times, we always ask this on our own initiative. Though we usually ask this question though perhaps, when we are facing our deepest troubles, causing us to question as to why do we have to face these kind of challenges.

One word. Life is Never Easy! (okay… make that 4 words) Being human is where we always face challenges no matter where we are. As a child, our parents sometimes put unseen pressure on us, as we need to do well in our studies so that we could be someone successful and meaningful in the future. As we grow older, we start to enrol into colleges, universities and perhaps look upon as to what our jobs might be in the future. Expectations are heavily placed upon each and everyone of us (freeloaders do not count). When we made it, people will say, “Wow!!! His life is so nice, I wished I could have one like that!” Though I foresee that it’s not always like that. People do have to work hard to achieve something they are after. Some have many challenges and while we always look at the success of some people, we never actually bothered as to how this person actually achieved the success.

Success always come after failures. As humans, we only tend to dwell on people’s successes but have we actually pondered on how many people have actually failed to become a success? Not really. Let me take a scenario.

You are in a talk. A MLM High earner is giving the talk. He talks about all the success stories from being a newspaper seller and finally after few years he became a wealthy man living his life wonderfully. Of course, we will all ponder as to this guy was able to make it, I am sure it will be good for everyone of us too. Unbeknownst to them, MLM companies has never ever told you as to how many people has failed to reach that mentioned top position. There were many who failed compared to many that seemed to be successful. Many that are failed, when asked those questions to those who are the pioneers in an MLM company, they will say that they didn’t try hard enough. Anyway the point here is, there is no easy walk in life. to reach the top you might have to do anything be it legal or illegal to be successful.

Aside from that, there are but a few challenges in life which is mainly compulsory. One of it is being able to grow up and able to live a healthy life. As human beings, some people are so not bothered with their health, they go with the saying, “We only live once, so why should I live healthily and not be able to enjoy the food I wanted to eat”.

Nice argument but then, this is what one usually says when they are still in good shape and no health problem poised before them. Until the health problem arise, this is when they start to regret and say “I want to live, please help me doctor. I do not want to die!!!!”

I do agree that we all live once. Due to that, I am doing the things I want to do as my age permits. These are the challenges and the things I can do while I am still able to.

Challenges are what make people strong. Life is not a fairy tale. It is also not as easy as it seems. We cannot just say we will exercise when the time comes when we do not even begin with any simple exercise in the beginning. We will keep saying when the time comes until maybe even to our deathbed.

As of now, I want to make sure that I am doing the right things. So what about you? Traveling used to be a challenge to me, but for now, I am going to be ready for my next challenge. Life does not just end here. So again I would like to say, WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Something happened in the office today. Well, not really that happening but while starting my desktop in the office, I overheard a loud conversation regarding someone discussing about how some lady rejected a proposal due to the guy being short?

Hmmm… did I do a typo? No… I did not!

Sidenote: Before you go on reading, this is a warning that this post is lengthy. Carry on reading if you like it, and then give your comments for more input.

A lady that is approximately around my shoulder length, just blatantly told out in office that she got propose yesterday. O’RLY?? Well, let’s hear the story from what I was able to capture.

This conversation consist of 3 person. Let’s call them Abeng, Ah Lian and Lady!

Lady: I want to share a funny story with you guys!

Abeng & Ah Lian: Waaa… what story? Nice or not?

Lady: Listen right. Yesterday this guy who I have been seeing all these while finally propose to me.

Abeng & Ah Lian: Oh… good wor.

Ah Lian: So sweet.. so what you do ah?

Lady: I rejected him.

Abeng & Ah Lian: Waaaaa huh???? O_o

Lady: You know right, I am okay when I come to dating with him, but then this thought have come to my mind these days. The one important reason was that he was shorter than me. I cannot really seem to accept that.

Abeng: Well… Well… Well.. so girls really do prefer their man to be taller.

Lady: I cannot imagine the horror when I wear high heel shoes. It is like as though I am bringing my younger brother out with me. I love to wear high heels and being with him, I refrained from doing so that at least I would not dwarf him.

Abeng: Hmmm… true true. Somehow I agree that the guy must be taller. (Somehow being supportive and sympathetic)

Ah Lian: True also. I used to date a guy who was shorter than me. He is kind of good, kind, nice to talk with. Only problem is because I cannot accept one who is shorter than me.

Lady: See…. Ah Lian also agree right? The man might be nice, charming but somehow in my mind, I cannot seem to accept it. At first his family already thought I gonna accept it, but it looks like there would not be any ceremony anymore. I am sorry for the guy though, I should have told him earlier when I was going out with him.

Conversation died off~~~~ as my boss came in and I discussed some problem.

Analysis

Well, what can I say, it looks like height is still a lingering factor when choosing a person as one’s husband for a girl. Rather maybe it is for this person. Many girls out there did say that they are not bother by their boyfriend’s height, that feelings are more important. We all know that, well, that is what most of them say.

Here is how I break it down. This is more like an analysis after observation. Here is a girl.

Age 15
I love him. I feel safe and he is so cool in front of all his friends. He is famous, he looks good too. I bet the other girls are jealous of me.

Age 18 – 23
He looks so cool. Our feelings are deep. Nothing can separate us. Feelings are what brought us together and it shall be.

Age 25++ till early 30s
I want a man who can give me security. If he has no money, why should I carry on my relationship with him? Who will support our future then? What happens if my friends ask me what my boyfriend worked as? Will I be able to rely on him in the future?

Breakdown Analysis

Alright! I am sure some of you can relate that this is what actually is happening. How would I know? I am guy right? Yes, I am a guy but then I used to ask this question on a few people of different age group as to why you love your other half. Then I ask, if your boyfriend is not well to do when other friends are well off with their successful boyfriends, would you feel inferior?

Girls below age 25 tend to say, “No. We were made for each other. No matter what happens, my feelings for him are real, nothing can separate us.”

Girls above age 25 tend to say, “If I really with this guy, I will give myself some time to see if he in the future will have the quality to get better and perhaps be successful in what he is doing. Of course, all I ask is that he is confident in his job and someone that I could rely on in times of need. Well, every girl wants a guy who has enough income to provide for their needs. I do not want later that I have to starve and later be unhappy for choosing the wrong guy. I want the right guy, well, as long as he can provide me with substantial financial means.”

Ohoho!! The above are good points. I can sense some girls might agree, some girls might not agree. Contrary to the above, guys would tend to agree that this is how a girl thinks. Based on this belief, you can see that is why guys are always working to get higher pay, sometimes sacrificing most of their time in the office. Well, as a man, we always strive to chase for success, sometimes habitually, we have that thinking capacity of being too practical (somehow girls don’t really like this, but a guy being practical ensures that things go on)

What can I say?

I find that as people mature and start learning about how tough the world outside, their perspective of life changes. While being young, feelings are all that is enough to one. As they grow older, many felt that sense of security is more important in developing a healthy a smooth going relationship. Feelings will still be there, but it must come along with the package of being substantially financially stable. Also it is not all that one person should be handsome, good looking, well built. Why? The answer is simple, really. The “ugly” men are in fact attractive to the women, BECAUSE they treat them right, have great senses of humor, DON’T obsess over working out and being attractive. They spend all that time on their women.

Let’s have a look at a testimony of one user.

It all goes back thousands of years ago, longer. A woman needs certain things: to feel safe, protected, guarded, financially secure, good breeding traits for future offspring. So, the bad guy attracts her because the deep voice initiates a sexual response without her even knowing it -signaling to her he can be loud, deep, strong and all that.

Girls like guys who are physically fit, handsome for two reasons: good strong handsome children can be made, strong men usually dominate over weaker men, and attractive men go further in society, always been that way, for the most part (they get a better shot at better jobs). Girls prefer men who have money, because that gives them another sense of security and feeling safe. But I disagree when you say they don’t want intelligent, nice men. That’s not true.

They want all the things I said above, but most of all; they want to know DEEP DOWN that the MAN is in control. Now days, men try to show that by hitting, verbal abuse, living off their womens income, etc. But what a man has to do is be kind, polite,provide all of the above, but also never take any crap from his girl. Draw the line, firm. Show them who’s in charge. And DO the things men should do! Fix broken things, stand up for them when needed, work and make money and well, I could keep going, but you get the idea

Anyway let us go back to the case of the lady who wants a taller man. What do you think of this scenario? Is it true that most girls wish their man were taller than them?  Can one just reject someone after dating so long because of their height?

I feel sorry for the guy who felt that everything has been okay all this while until when the girl rejected his proposal. I bet that she did not say the real reason to this person and he must be wondering what wrong he did and felt that he is not good enough. For such a stupid reason which that guy does not know, he thought of a lot of things as to why this relationship is not working only to not realize that it is all due to that girl’s preference of height.

What say you? Like some people say, girls are manipulative. O’RLY? I can go on about lots of example while I was studying in college, and tell you my experiences about how manipulative during college years but then; I believe that would be good for another time. Well, I am sure of that. Till next time.

For some looking into some real life testimony about height issue, here is one from a person call Sweet Dee. Below are the main excerpts.

The first guy I actually dated was 5’5 when I was 5’9 in my junior year of high school. Dating someone shorter than you takes a lot of confidence for both people involved when the girl is taller. I think that’s ultimately a big part of why we broke up, self confidence that is.. not necessarily the height issue. That short guy was convinced that I could do better than him, and told me that so often that I eventually believed it. It only took me a year to see that.

After dating the shorty, I ruled out all guys under 5’10. Lately though I’ve been wondering if I need to rethink that. I feel like I’ve made some progress in dealing with my height based insecurities. Finally I just had to decide to stop caring about what other people think. Heels are my favorite part of every outfit and I make no apologies for that. I actually like the way I am now. Sure it’s a little annoying to see people smirk as I strut down the sidewalk in 4 inch heels next to a man who would clearly still be shorter than me even if I cut my feet off, but I’m really starting to think that sticking to the basketball player height group may be severely limiting my dating pool. I think it might actually be time to reconsider dating shorter men.

Anyway no matter what one thinks, everyone is different. This is just a guide and some analysis to look at.

 Hola. What happened these past few days? I was really stressed out.

Wait……… me???? Stressed? Not really stress but more or less some problems I have ongoing in my weird weird life. Hold on, what is this? A blogger rant? Well, you can call it that way, or you can just call it the epitome of a blogger’s life, to entertain, but as usual, we are all human beings. Aside from that, it has been like awhile since I have also dwelled on real life posts.

Being a salary man, I live on my salary. (But didn’t I earn from blogging? – My blog money only enables me to eat peanuts. Enough said) Without my monthly paid salary, I feel weak and cash flow has been very bad due to these past 2 months. WHY?? Salary was not in for 2 months. Imagine everyday eating only simple bread, gardenia waffle. The waffle taste good though. This brings me back to the days when I was still studying in college where in those days, I ended up skipping breakfast, lunch and dinner and only had supper (I eat a lot if I want, and also do not need to eat when I want). It is like I have this weird stomach, which adapts to the situation (maybe that is why I am with this body size).

Amazingly, people think I have a decent pay due to my trips I have gone. Well, if I am you would have seen more trips on this blog which is like non-existant nowadays. I am just a humble salary man who saves his money for these trips. I was not born in a rich family unlike the lucky people who do (which I think made me the saving type).

Work has been a change for me. For those that know me, I have been a Java developer most of my working life and now slowly adapting to a new working life. It feels different, but then nothing untoward. Imagine 6 years of using Java and finally those skills are being put to rest. Though lucky I am coping well as of this date.

My social life has also changed. One is due to the resources I am lacking (no ‘tani’ sessions, no gaming sessions, no blogger events session). What does blogger events got to do with this? First and foremost, most blogger events are free, no charges. Cool… Some blogger events have goodie bags. Cool… Until we derived the part where we have to travel like 40 to 50km to and 40 to 50km back. Now that is so not cool. For something free(goodie bags, vouchers, movie passes), we tend to travel all the way to collect them and that is when we forgot to factor in the other charges of petrol, car tire wear, car maintenance, sleep time and others. I guessed I am slowly becoming a hermit who factors everything that is a cost. Wait I do have a social life – if Sims Social on Facebook counts! What a sad case right?

Life is sad and unexpected when you least know it. There are many things happening out there. For a person like me, I have been keeping tabs of what people thought of, what people tend to do, but sometimes we never know the details until someone spilt the beans. We look at things superficially and we never tend to look what is beyond that.

Some thoughts about BLOGGING

Those days, I aimed to be a prominent blogger as the blogger bug has not really hit most people yet, but look at what blogging has been doing to the blogging community now? Are the bloggers even called bloggers anymore? I meant those claiming to be personal blogs. I can see mostly posting about events and nothing more. Somehow people nowadays blog to make money rather than to blog (If you do not understand this metaphor, either my English is too ‘powderful’ or it is too deep the same way I do not understand some Chinese proverbs). In lame man terms, what does one blog? Their aim to be known? Some bloggers do go for events, but when they blog, they add some personal flavor to the post. Take for an instance a blogger I know, who goes for events and blog about it. That blogger does not blog the way most people blog like it could be seen in like any other blogs.

Take this scenario.

An event was held. Bloggers gather. Bloggers snap photos (Mostly snapped at the same time, same depiction). Blogger go back and post their photos and talk about the event and say it was a great time and met these blogger and that blogger and it was a great event.

After the Event

While saying it was a great event (maybe they wanted to please the sponsors), they do not portray what is so great about the event. The only thing I can see coming from the blogs are just the events photo (some direct normal shoots which most blogs already have), a group of people in those photos who attended (maybe so that other bloggers can go to your blog and grab that photo and increase their hits), and more photos of the lot (well, girls who blog like this would be an exception as most people who browse their blogs just want to see a pretty face, as for guys who blog like this.. SAD CASE). So is there discrimination? There is no discrimination. Guys who read those female blogger blogs are mostly interested in the photos and tend to just skip those lengthy words. Most female readers though would pay attention to both the photos and the text along with it. As for male bloggers, if you are not someone well known, someone who does not have humor in your postings, someone who cannot take nice photos or photos of other ladies, you stand at an odd of 1:100 for people to actually caring about what you blogged about (if you’re chasing for the fame of blogging). Of course if your blog is not really a personal blog and more or less about travel and food, then that is good. At least that blog has direction.

My thoughts about blogging stopped. Like they said, why bother? Well, then just do not bother about this post then. Though if you can actually read all the way till here, it meant it could also mean something else right?

Back to the point

Age is catching up. These years are supposed to be like the most stable years. As age catches up, more problems arose. Hair loss, health problem, body gets easily injured internally, body gets tired easily, sleeping time gets lesser and lesser, work and responsibility becomes greater, wealth management becomes an important factor and so much more.

So then what is my purpose of blogging these stuffs? To rant or to prove a point? To instill my thoughts into the readers? Or to make them sit and think about these things which usually people do not have any thoughts about it.

How long has it been since a post like that from the Weird One? It must have been very long. Strange! Though I have many ideas to blog in terms of life meanings and some thoughts about the social life, security and relationships. Although, it is also wise as a blogger to balance some lengthy post with another kind of post. Imagine this, if all my posts were words, who would even bothered to read at all (unless the whole posts in the blog is about some one night stand script – which reminded me about a blog).

People change as they grow up. People see things as they grow older. The world is getting dangerous due to the fact of increasing inflation happening everywhere. The nasi lemak 20 or 50 cent that we used to buy is nowhere to be found. Now if one is lucky it is at least RM1.50 to get a nasi lemak or usually we can find one at RM3.50. Times have changed. We have so many devices which our parents before that do not have at all. We have mobile telephone, slowly we have smart phones. The demands of people are getting higher. People are copying everything. The younger generations are so obsessed with Korean dramas, up till the point they dressed like them, fake eyelashes, doll themselves up but till the very end, they do not have those Korean features which when revealed in public, I feel that they have put themselves into hot soup (but I guessed they do not really bother about it as they do not care what people see, though that is what they say when actually what they wanted people to see is their image).

Seemingly I think this piece has gone further than what it was meant to say. Indeed I have much to write out on this blog post but doing so would have made this post into an article. I will save my writings and thoughts for future posts. I think I will write an article at least once or twice a month for thoughts of life.

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Signing out without much thought.

Today as I go on my daily life, in the office reading the daily Sun, I have learnt new words. Since it has been a mundane and painful week (post-marathon effect, more on this soon), I have decided to amuse myself with the political scene in Malaysia.

Political prostitute? What a funny way to get ejected from a state assembly because of these words. When I read the news over the Sun Newspaper I was astounded.

From my understanding, the following words Political Prostitute can meant someone who sells himself for the means of being too involved in politics. From The Sun, it seems that one of the reasons Nga Kor Ming was asked to withdraw that statement was because of the reason of an insult to women.

For more insight of the story, here is the link.
Taken from http://www.thesundaily.my/news/218425

Deputy speaker Datuk Hee Yit Foong, who was presiding, asked Nga Kor Ming (DAP- Pantai Remis), who was debating the 2012 state budget, to withdraw the remarks as it was an insult to women.

She said, “It is an insult to women. Retract, or else I will not allow you to debate. Your mother and grandmother are also women.”

I wonder why? Was there a gender issue over the word political prostitute? Well, Nga could have used political slave (but that would meant something else). So in the end, I cannot think of anything wrong if based on The Sun itself. Maybe there is more than what was said, but I am sure you can be a judge to that.

Now imagined if I said political puppet, then later people say I am being derogative. Then if I said, political slave, I am being demeaning of lower class. How about political servant? Politically disabled? In the end, I think everyone would be forced to be nice in an assembly. I guessed that is how it would be. All things could be argued in the politic scene. I guessed that was what made politics drama like in our beautiful country.

Actually my case in view is how does one relate political prostitute with women? I still do not get it. Please explain. Also why are they fighting over something like political prostitute and frog? Why?

My 2 cents worth or my random weirdness. Also why am I suddenly talking politics. Must have been some weird medicine I took earlier. Doggone it.

Sometimes we feign that we are young all through these years, thinking that time stopped for us. Seriously though we are getting older, which we all cannot deny but are we wiser as we get older?

As time passes by and as technology emerged, many people seems to be caught up in the age of IT and technology. Not owning a smart phone these days felt out of place (nothing wrong with not owning one, but just that sometimes we have to keep abreast with the current technology in this world. It does not meant that it is a necessity but it is complimentary).

So did we actually get wiser as we start to use these tools of technology? Or did we get dumber because we use these tools to look for our answers? Does our brain malfunction or rather use rather less brain cells because we rely so much on the computer or smart phone or any electronic devices to help us find the answer?

What are the boundaries? What are the limits? Why then does the school do not allow students to use a PC to search the World Wide Web for answers during answers? Well, some people say we should not deprive them of the benefit of being able to access the internet to look for answers but why? Is it to boost memory strength? Though how come what we did previously does not apply in the working world since we get to have our hands on these gadgets to help us do all the work.

You must have been wondering!!!

“OH NO!!!! Not another one of those WEIRD DANIEL moments where he starts thinking of things and start telling and boggling other people’s mind“

Though sad to say, he (The Weird One) is back with a bang (not gangbang) and will relive what he does best on the blogging world. To blog about his thoughts and not just his travel log or photos to showcase.

Back to the topic, are we wiser as we grow up? In what sense? Is it because we have gadgets to help us, we are wiser? Or do we use these tools to help us when we cannot do anything else? So many questions, so few answers which I would expect later on.

Sometimes it is good that we have the capacity to think. Not everyone is fortunate to have time to rest on the beach and ponder on thoughts that boggle their minds but like I said, anywhere would do. In life, we ponder about things at times which does not concern us.

Why do we do that?

These are things which help generate our mind receptors and also to make sure that our brain is still functioning. Why do humans worry? Worry?? We all worry for a reason, but it is also subject to our ability as to how we handle our worries. Some do not even understand the reason of why do they worry. Well, things go and come as they like but there are many things which raises a lot of questions in our daily life.

I guess life has a lot of meaning. This topic can go on and on with so many questions to be answered but leave very little answers to be given. Perhaps right now, the person reading this blog does not even understand a word of what this blogger is trying to say. Some even think that this is gibberish. Some even think that this is too deep, not something which they could fathom at all.

Some also thinks that I am using big words. Well, once a while, let the blogger relay what is in his mind. After this post, he will be his carefree self again. I am sure that will bring cheers to a lot of folks out there.

Till my next WEIRD thoughts!! Adios.